| Messages by Pastor Dave Kueker delivered at Caseyville United Methodist Church 9:30 am Sunday Worship Many thanks to our volunteer sound crew for recording each week! |
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computer:
1. Right click on the link you desire, either for the audio or the
slideshow file.
2. Highlight and click on "Save Target As" option.
3. Enter a filename for the sermon or use the one presented. You
can also change the location where the file will save on your
computer.
4. Click on "Save" - the audio files are very large and may take
some time to download.
5. Open and play the sermon on your computer's media player.
6. Double click on the PDF file to open the slideshow that
accompanies the sermon. (If you do not have Acrobat Reader,
please click here to download the latest version.)
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Principle 1: Enhance Your Love Maps. Gottman defines a love map as the place in your brain where you
interests, and maintaining their interest throughout the relationship.
Principle 2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration. This means laying down a positive view about your
spouse, respecting and appreciating their differences.
Principle 3: Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away. Acknowledging your partner's small moments in life
and orienting yourself towards them will maintain that necessary connection that is vital for the relationship.
Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You. It is important to maintain your own identity in a relationship,
but it is equally important to yield to your partner and give in. If both partners allow one another this influence,
then they will learn to respect one another on a deeper level.
Principle 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems. It is important to compromise on issues that can be resolved,
which Gottman believes can be accomplished by these five steps: soften your startup, learn to make and
receive repair attempts, soothe yourself and each other, compromise, and be tolerant of each other’s faults.
Principle 6: Overcome Gridlock. Major issues that cannot be resolved because both partners’ views are so
fundamentally different involves understanding of the other person and deep communication. The goal is to at
least get to a position that allows the other person to empathize with the partner's view, even if a compromise
cannot be reached.
Principle 7: Create Shared Meaning. Create a shared value system that continually connects the partners
through rituals/traditions, shared roles and symbols.
interests, and maintaining their interest throughout the relationship.
Principle 2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration. This means laying down a positive view about your
spouse, respecting and appreciating their differences.
Principle 3: Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away. Acknowledging your partner's small moments in life
and orienting yourself towards them will maintain that necessary connection that is vital for the relationship.
Principle 4: Let Your Partner Influence You. It is important to maintain your own identity in a relationship,
but it is equally important to yield to your partner and give in. If both partners allow one another this influence,
then they will learn to respect one another on a deeper level.
Principle 5: Solve Your Solvable Problems. It is important to compromise on issues that can be resolved,
which Gottman believes can be accomplished by these five steps: soften your startup, learn to make and
receive repair attempts, soothe yourself and each other, compromise, and be tolerant of each other’s faults.
Principle 6: Overcome Gridlock. Major issues that cannot be resolved because both partners’ views are so
fundamentally different involves understanding of the other person and deep communication. The goal is to at
least get to a position that allows the other person to empathize with the partner's view, even if a compromise
cannot be reached.
Principle 7: Create Shared Meaning. Create a shared value system that continually connects the partners
through rituals/traditions, shared roles and symbols.